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Bullying Victims

 

 

 

 

If you’re a victim of bullying you might feel:

·        Angry, sad, lonely, or depressed.

·        Like you have no friends.

·        That you are getting into fights.

·        That you want to hurt someone else or yourself.

·        Like taking steps to defend yourself.

·        Helpless to stop the bullying.

·        Hopeless that anything could be done.

·        Afraid to go to school, or feel anxious all the time.

·        Bad about yourself.

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Kids who are bullied can experience negative physical, school, and mental health issues. Kids who are bullied are more likely to experience:

•    Depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns, and loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy. These issues may persist into adulthood.

•    Health complaints

•    Decreased academic achievement—GPA and standardized test scores—and school participation. They are more likely to miss, skip, or drop out of school.

A very small number of bullied children might retaliate through extremely violent measures. In 12 of 15 school shooting cases in the 1990s, the shooters had a history of being bullied.

 

Get help

 

Being bullied is not your fault, and it is wrong. No matter what you say, how you look, or what you believe, nothing gives anyone the right to make fun of or hurt you.

 

·        Tell your parents and talk with them about how they can keep you safe

·        Tell a teacher, counselor, or your school principle. They can take action to stop the bullying

·        Most schools are required to have policy on bullying if you feel that nobody in your school is helping you find out what the school policy is, and talk to your principle about how the policy applies to your case.

·        If there is no policy in our school, talk with friends, a teacher, or the principle about creating one.                                                                                                          

Help yourself

 

You have the right to be safe. There is no one right way to respond to a bully. It is not your fault if a bully continues to pick on you do the best you can to cope with bullying while it is happening and get support from adults to help you stay safe and support you emotionally

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Support kids who are bullied-

·        Listen and focus on the child. Learn what’s been going on and show you want to help.

·        Assure the child that bullying is not your fault.

·        Talk to them and understand who bullies may struggle.

·        Give advice about what to do. This may involve role- playing and thinking through out how the child might react if the bullying occurs again.

·        Work together to resolve the situation and protect the bullied child. O- the child, parents, and school or organization may all have valuable input; It may help too.

·        Ask the child being bullied what can be done to make or her feel safe. Remember that changes to routine should be minimized. He or she is not at fault and should not be singled out.

·        Develop a game plan. Discuss the steps that are not taken and the limitations around what can be based on policy and laws. Be persistent. Bullying may not end overnight. Commit to making it stop and consistently support the bullied child.

Don’ts

·        Never tell the child to ignore the bullying.

·        Don’t blame the child for being bullied even if he or she provoked the bullying, no one deserves to be bullied.

·        Don’t tell the child to fight back against the kid who is bullying. It could get the child hurt, suspended, or expelled.

·        Parents should resist the verge to contact the other parents involved. It may make matters worse. School or other officials can act as mediators between parents.

 

Signs that a child is being bullied

 

·        Unexplainable injuries.

·        Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry.

·        Frequent headaches or stomach aches, felling sick or faking illness.

·        Change in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals of binge eating. Kids may not come home from school Hungary because they didn’t get lunch.

·        Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares.

·        Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork or not wanting to go to school.

·        Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations

·        Feeling loss of hopelessness or decreased self-esteem.

 

Why don’t kids ask for help?

 

Statics from the 2012 Indicators of School Crime and Safety shows that an adult was notified in less than half (40%) of bullying incidents. Kids don’t tell adults for many reasons, such as

 

·        Bullying can make a child feel helpless. Kids may want to handle it on their own to feel control again. They may fear being seen as weak or a tattletale.

·        Kids may fear backlash from the kid who bullied them.

·        Bullying can be a humiliating experience. Kids may not want adults to know what is being said about them, weather it be true or not. They may also fear that an adult will judge them or treat them differently.

 

 

There has been a crime or someone is at immediate risk of harm.	Call 911.
There has been a crime or someone is at immediate risk of harm.	Call 911.

 

There has been a crime or someone is at immediate risk of harm.	Call 911.
	National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  online or at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). The toll-free call goes to the nearest crisis center in our national network. These centers provide 24-hour crisis counseling and mental health referrals.
Someone is acting differently than normal, such as always seeming sad or anxious, struggling to complete tasks, or not being able care for themselves.	Find a local counselor or other mental health services
A child is being bullied in school.	Contact the: •    Teacher •    School counselor •    School principal •    School superintendent •    State Department of Education See more on working with the school.
The school is not adequately addressing harassment based on race, color, national origin, sex, disability, or religion.	Contact: •    School superintendent •    State Department of Education •    U.S. Department of Justice, Civil Rights Division

 

More Help

When you, your child, or someone close to you is being bullied, there are many steps to take to help resolve the situation. Make sure you understand what bullying is and what it is not, the warning signs of bullying, and steps to take for preventing and responding to bullying, including how to talk to children about bullying, prevention in schools and communities, and how to support children involved.

After reviewing that information, if you feel you have done everything you can to resolve the situation and nothing has worked, or someone is in immediate danger, there are ways to get help.

There has been a crime or someone is at immediate risk of harm.

Call 911.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Bully

 

Types of Bullies

1.     Physical bullying.

2.     Verbal bullying.

3.     Relationship bullying.

 

How Bullies can get help.

3 Tips

 

Tip #1- Understand the truth about bullying

·        Walk away from the bully. –Bullies want to know they have control over your emotions so don’t react with anger or retaliate with physical force.

·        Protect yourself. -If you cant walk away & are being physically hurt, protect yourself so you can get away. Safety is the first priority.

·        Report the bullying to a trusted adult. –If you don’t report them, then it could become more & more aggressive.

·        Repeat if necessary. -Like the bully, you may have to be relentless. Report every time you are bullied. There is no reason for you to ever put up with bullying.

 

Tip #2 – Reframe the problem of bullying.

            -By changing your attitude towards bullying so you can help regain a sense of control.

·        Try to view bullying in a different perspective. –The bullying is unhappy, frustrated person who wants to have control over your feelings so that you can feel as bad as they do.

·        Look at the big picture. –Bullying can be extremely painful, but try asking yourself how important it will seem to you in the long run. Is it worth it?

·        Focus on the positive. –Reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life. Including your own positive qualities & gifts.

·        Find the humor. –If your relaxed enough to recognize the absurdity of a bullying situation, and to comment on it with humor. You’ll likely no longer be interesting target for a bully.

·        Don’t try to control the uncontrollable. – Many things in life are beyond our control. –Including people. Don’t stress on it.

Tip #3 – Find support from those who don’t bully.

            -Having a trusted friend or somebody you can trust can be used for support & to encourage you to resilience when being a bully.

·        Find others who share your same values & interest. –Learn something, do something you love to do, ect.

·        Share your feelings. –Talk to someone trustworthy about it.

·        Boost your confidence. –Exercise helps you feel good. So try things likewise.

·        Don’t beat yourself up. –Don’t make a bullying incident worse by dwelling on it, or replying it over & over in your head. Focus on the positive.

 

Bystander

 

A bystander is someone who sees or knows about bullying or other forms of violence that is happening to someone else; they can either be part of the problem

(Hurtful Bystander) or part of the solution (Helpful Bystander) Its easy to ignore incidents of bullying, or walk away thinking “at least its not me”

 

But believe it or not, by doing nothing you are contributing to the problem- and you may be giving bullies the “okay” to curry on with their behavior.

 

Research show’s that bystanders can effectively stop bullying within 10 seconds of an intervention- so, what are you waiting for?

 

We all have a role to play in erasing bullying, and protecting the rights of others and ourselves. You can take a stand against bullying by standing up for someone else- without putting yourself at risk, or becoming a bully yourself. Bystanders have the power to play a key role in preventing or stop bullying. Some bystanders directly intervene, by discouraging the bully, defending the victim, or redirecting the situation away from the bully. Other bystanders get help. By rallying support from peers to stand up against bullying, or by reporting the bully to an adult

 

 

Here are some ways you can become a helpful bystander

 

·        Make it clear to your friends that you won’t be involved in bullying behavior

·        Never standby and watch or encourage bullying behavior. It may not be happening to you- but What if it was?

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Signs that you’re a hurtful bystander

·        Prodding the bully to begin

·        Encourage the bullying by laughing, and cheering

·        Join in the bullying

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